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Defining the relationship between coach and client (coachee) is critical to success. Nor is the definition fixed but rather, dynamic.
The relationship between coach and coachee becomes closer over time and constitutes an inseparable part of the coaching process.
If we want to begin examining the option of coaching, the coachee should want to be coached. Coaching based on ‘must’ rather than ‘want’ is doomed to failure. As a senior manager, be aware that the option of forcing a manager subordinate to you to take coaching will do nothing but damage.
So how can we harness a manager who, in senior management’s view, could be assisted by coaching?
1. Ask the intended coachee for a chance to present the world of coaching to her or him, and explain that the decision to join a coaching process is up to her or him.
2. Be honest with your own wish for this person to undergo coaching, and enumerate the advantages you find in coaching.
3. Present your faith in the intended coachee’s ability to grow and achieve greater performance.
4. Allow the manager to make her or his own impressions from the designated coach.
5. Set up an introductory meeting between the coach and your manager.
The precondition for gaining results from the coaching process is full, can did cooperation between coach and coachee. This is why it’s so important to position consent and commitment by both sides alongside each other in the following way:
Coach:
• I promise to relate to you as a person who is naturally creative, whole and resourceful.
• I promise to believe in you more than you believe in yourself.
• Since the objective is to turn you into a powerful leader of your own life, I promise to draw you forward and require your best, with integrity, respect and compassion.
• I promise to be all I possibly can and more, for the sake of the coaching process.
• I promise to be a reservoir of compassion for your humaneness.
• I promise to use all my skills towards bringing you to the point where you view yourself as the leader of your life.
Coachee:
• I agree to be honest and authentic with the coach.
• I agree to be compassionatetowards myself, based on the understanding that learning and change take time.
• I understand that the coaching process directly touches on aspects of my life and is not a theory.
• I understand that coaching takes place not only during sessions but primarily between sessions.
• I understand that coaching is not consultation but a relationship empowered by the coach and coachee.
• I agree to take full responsibility for the decisions I reach during coaching.
• I understand that the success of coaching is directly linked to my commitment and dedication to the total process.
• I agree to do all I possibly can in order to implement the tasks I receive from the coach.
